Being a mom is tough. Being a stay at home mom is INCREDIBLY tough. Being a working mom is INCREDIBLY tough. But in totally different ways. I don’t think one is better than the other (although I think one is better FOR ME than the other) but I have immense respect for women who chose either role.
That being said – the “women’s role” to do household chores usually extends to both sets of moms. The way I handle it is VASTLY different if I am home all day vs. if I am working all day. So I’m sharing some of my favorite chores, least favorite chores, and tips for “balancing” all the craziness we do.
My “favorite” chores (is there really such a thing? more like these are the least sucky) are making the bed, tidying up, cooking, and dishes.
My least favorite chores are laundry (my husband is really helpful and does laundry sometimes if I’m super busy or he has extra time at home) and cleaning the oven. I hate the oven. It’s the worst. And the microwave. It sucks too.
When i’m home I spend probably 1-2 hours a day cleaning. I do dishes every day, I do laundry every day, I tidy up at the end of the day, etc. but when I work all day I am not as “household productive”. You would think being not at home would make it less taxing to do household chores but after work time just seems so precious. I still usually cook because I enjoy it, but I do dishes 1-2 times per week and laundry on Sundays. And I have a cleaner who cleans the house. It’s the best money I spend all month because I don’t have to do it on Saturdays.
For the moms out there feeling totally overwhelmed let me share a few tidbits (not intended to be preachy – more helpful):
- You are not alone. Everyone struggles to balance it all, And sometimes you just flat out can’t which leads me to…
- OUTSOURCE. When you can afford it and the trade off seems worth it: hire that cleaner, or laundry helper, or babysitter, or food service, or whatever. You don’t have to do it alone. And what you can’t outsource but still need help with…
- ASK YOUR HUSBAND. He survived without you. He probably did his own laundry and dishes too. Ask and you shall receive ladies. *Note: I know not all husbands will help. Mine is pretty amazing and never complains when I ask him to do something (at least not where I can hear him). But you might as well try – it’s better to ask and voice your frustration/need before it becomes a problem. Trust me.
- If none of these work, and its not high priority, do it tomorrow. Your kids are only so little so long. Don’t waste the time. Sit on the couch for an hour, hold them/read to them/whatever and enjoy it every once in a while. The house will not burn down I promise.
Hopefully that wasn’t too soapbox-y. I feel like I’ve learned so much in the last year having Kenz, and then 2, and working my marriage and job into the mix. If I can help one reader find a little more tranquility then it was worth it.